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Unhappiness versus Uncertainty

Friday, January 30th, 2009

dreamstime_cliff-11How many people will do anything to endure a profound level of unhappiness instead of facing the inevitable reality, the unknown?

Without pretending to be a statistician, I can roughly assume the percentage is astonishingly high.  Why?  Why so many highly educated, highly intelligent people numb themselves to sustain this type of misery?  Isn’t life too short and too precious?

The answer to this question boils down to a fearful word “risk”.  Even though “unhappiness” is such a dull and indescribable pain, taking the risk and making the jump can be very frightening. Let’s look at a scenario.  As an employee (say Tom) in a typical corporation, Tom is in a dead-end job feeling the drudgery of 8 to 5 for a very long long time.  The sparkles once in Tom’s eyes are long gone.  Tom walks around the office shuffling his feet with head down as if he has just lost his close family member.

I am pretty sure a person like Tom has contemplated long and hard of various options.  Pros and cons of staying with the uninspiring job or taking the plunge to face the fear as well as to feel the new-found excitement.  In the end, many people chose to stay with the familiar world due to sheer apprehension of the risk and the uncertainty.

If you are one of the Toms, I can assure you that the plunge is not  that scary.  In fact, slipping off a cliff, intentionally or not, you may pleasantly discover blue ocean, green forest and an unbeaten path that may lead you to a new world and to the ultimate happiness.

Are you ready to make the jump?


Wednesday, January 28th, 2009


Today is so-called hump day, mid of the week.  In my previous corporate life, I would have felt a bit relieved that I have survived almost half of the week as the weekends were approaching.

Nowadays, it doesn’t make any difference whatsoever as I have all the freedom and time to roam around town.  I did exactly that.  I met a friend for tea and talked about our dreams to become the pilot of our own ship instead of being a hopeless passenger on a bus going to where? Nobody knows for sure.

Since I was in an open mall, I thought why not enjoying the opportunity and the fresh air to browse through a few of my favorite stores.  No brainer, right?

I walked into Banana Republic where I have started purchasing my semi-casual garments.  I was greeted with a friendly welcome and a smile with an unmistakable British accent.  Immediately following the greeting, the shop attendant, an English lady named Julie, commented about my clothes.  Obviously, she noticed that I was “Banana” head to toe.

What I was so grateful for was an exceptional shopping experience attributed to Julie’s attentiveness, her natural persuasion skills and her innate sincerity.

Let’s recount of what transpired in the short twenty-minute encounter during which Julie played her role so well.  Firstly, friendly greeting with a genuine compliment; highlighting the deep-discounted sales and location of the racks/shelves; showing up at the right time to help me during my decision-making process; lending her personal touch to adjust straps to ensure the garment hang beautifully on me.  Of course, what impressed me even more was when she asked me about my origin.  It turned out that she has some Chinese gene as well even though you can spot her big and blue eyes from her Irish heritage.

There are so many events and incidents (major or insignificant) in our daily lives.  What we tune in determines our mood, our attitude and the outcome of the journey.  Be mindful and be present.  You will be guaranteed to spot the beauty and the kindness in others intersecting into your life.